I do not disagree with the marriage part but tell me this? If the mother cannot financially support the child do you believe that’s the child best interest? Or the mothers? Because I cannot tell whose side you are on. Is it the child’s best interest or the parent who has full custody? Because if you think I’m against mothers you are wrong. I’m against the parent who has full custody a cannot support the child and ask for government assistance a refuses to let the other parent who can support the child, support the child. Meanwhile they are living off our hard earned tax dollars. While using the child as crutch and complete ruining the other parent’s life.
A realtionship with a mother and child or father and child is not about money. There are very good poor parents who raise amazing children.
A child needs both parents but profiting off a failed relationship is wrong. There are other ways to make sure the child is taken care of by both parents.
Pull the statistics up that show the amount of men that bother to file the paperwork to get custody or modify visitation. I promise you won’t be shocked.
Show me the statistics where a mother has to jump through the same hoops ? I promise you will be shocked.
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After you, dear. Aferall, you are the one who pulled this “paperwork failure is primary reason” fairy tale from out of your backside; so if there are statistics to going along with it, do present them (including source).
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You keep making statements based on how you feel about your case but you are not showing anything that results in a policy or actual solution that can be agreed on. Your solution was to blow up the system and stop all child support. That’s not thinking about the children at all. Honestly if I was the Judge in your case you would not be granted custody for that reason. You are not focused on the children. You are focused on yourself and how having to pay for children is negatively impacting your life. You are very focused on how she is hurting you and how you have to pay money. Not on the children.
The Judge and court system is there for the children not the parents. The children come first always. If anyone has to be hurt by the process the Judge is going to try to make sure it is not the children.
If you have solutions that have to do with protecting and taking care of children that’s what it is about.
Otherwise, you made a mistake and you are paying for it. But the children should never be the ones who suffer because of parents not making sure they have a healthy relationship.
The only good news coming is that hopefully over the next couple years with the new Administration the costs of things are going to decrease and become more reasonable which should also help your pocketbook along with everyone else.
Because I have a simple solution. “If the custodial parent cannot afford to take care of the child the best interest of the child would be to offer full custody to the non custodial parent before child support is considered.” Child support is corrupt it needs to be ABOLISHED and a new system set in place that is fair for the child. You’re obviously just here to troll. But I appreciate it because you are keeping this topic alive.
“If I was the judge”
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Completely disagree with your assessment of what is best for the child. Again, you are focused on money not the child. Poor people have children too. It doesn’t make them bad parents. A parent who is wealthy can be neglectful and the poor parent can be very loving. Saying that money should be the deciding factor ignores what should really be considered. Definitely not in agreement. Good luck.
Welcome to America you have that Right! I hope you never find yourself in that situation.
lol. Your wishes for other people are apparent.
I only wish you the best!
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Abolish child support
Federal Policy on Divorce and Child Custody Reform
The United States faces a divorce crisis that destabilizes families, burdens courts, and disadvantages children, punishes the noncustodial parent who is usually the father. This federal policy aims to strengthen marital accountability, prioritize child welfare, and streamline support systems. Effective immediately upon passage, it applies nationwide, superseding conflicting state laws under the Supremacy Clause.
- Elimination of No-Fault Divorce with Minors in the Household
No-fault divorce is hereby prohibited in cases where minor children (under 18) reside in the home at the time of filing. Marriage is a binding commitment, and dissolving it without cause undermines family stability when kids are involved. Exceptions require documented evidence of fault—e.g., adultery, abandonment, or abuse substantiated by police reports and prosecution. This ensures separations stem from serious breaches, not whims, protecting children from unnecessary upheaval. Couples without minors may proceed with no-fault divorce as a separate matter.
- Default 50/50 Custody in Fault-Based Divorces Without Abuse
In fault-based divorces lacking police reports and prosecutions for physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, joint physical and legal custody shall be the default, split 50/50 between parents. This presumes both parents are fit unless one explicitly requests to forgo custody, supported by a sworn affidavit detailing their reasons (e.g., inability to provide care). Courts may adjust this only upon clear evidence of unfitness—e.g., substance abuse or neglect—presented within 30 days of filing. The goal: equal parenting time unless proven detrimental, reducing custody battles and affirming both parents’ roles.
- Reform of Child Support Handling Fees
States currently profit from child support via percentage-based handling fees, incentivizing inflated awards. This ends now. The federal government mandates a flat $1 processing fee per child support transaction, regardless of amount. States may no longer skim percentages, eliminating their financial stake in excessive orders. This aligns support with actual child needs, not bureaucratic greed. Compliance is required within one year, with federal oversight ensuring transparency via annual audits.
- Mandatory Tracking and Reporting of Child Support Expenditures
Child support recipients must track and report how funds are spent, submitting monthly summaries to the court. Eligible categories are:
- Housing: Rent/mortgage for the child’s primary residence.
- Utilities: Electricity, water, heat, phone, internet for household use.
- Clothing: Apparel and shoes for the child.
- Food: Groceries and meals for the child.
- Entertainment: Activities, toys, or outings for the child’s enrichment.
- Vacations: Travel costs tied to the child’s participation, park fees, and associated costs.
- School Supplies: Books, school supplies, stationery, uniforms. Private schools only where state school of choice vouchers or custodial parent pays school tuition.
- Electronics: Devices for education or monitored recreation (e.g., tablets, laptops).
- If medical, dental, and vision insurance isn’t part of the divorce the premiums and copays are qualified expenses.
Funds spent outside these categories are disallowed unless pre-approved by the court for emergencies (e.g., medical costs). Parents file itemized reports under penalty of perjury, with random audits by a federal oversight board. Non-compliance risks contempt charges, reduction of child support or custody review. This ensures support benefits the child, not the recipient’s lifestyle.
Implementation and Enforcement
- Federal Oversight: A new Office of Family Equity under the Department of Justice enforces compliance, with authority to penalize states or individuals violating terms.
- Timeline: States adapt within 18 months; courts implement custody and reporting rules within 6 months.
- Penalties: Non-compliant states lose federal family welfare funding; parents falsifying reports face loss of custody, fines or jail time.
Rationale
Divorce shouldn’t be a free-for-all when kids are at stake—eliminating no-fault with minors forces accountability. Equal custody reflects fairness absent abuse, cutting courtroom drama. Flat fees kill state profiteering, and tracked support guarantees kids come first. America’s divorce mess needs tough, clear rules.