As a parent who has gotten to see both sides of things, I personally have dealt with an absent “dead beat” father from my oldest child.
And I was married to an amazing man who would have done anything for our children including my oldest son. (His son as he eloquently put it)
I’ve also watched my son who served in the United State’s Marine Corp, fight just to see his daughter.
And just be added as a parent and coparent on her school records and with her mother.
Many good dads who want to be in their children’s lives are alienated from them because the court systems are broken and they cannot afford high priced attorneys.
Let alone survive after the huge amounts of child support they pay and the money is not spent on the children.
Mother’s should provide a complete breakdown quarterly of how the child support was spent on the children and the father’s who are good dads, should get 50/50 physical custody. No child support for either parent, and family counseling to co-parent properly.
I also think both parents should not be a loud to date for 1 year after the custody hearing to focus on co-parenting and communication with no outside interference.
The goal is for the children’s success and mental health.
They create a parenting plan together and all decisions are made together for the children.
A child deserves both parents