Rethink all court child support policies & procedures. I know many Men in NJ & NY area who are broke and depressed b/c of the NJ/NY Family Court Policies and Procedures. I am assuming it is very similar in other states.
The calculation is done at the Paycheck Gross Level therefore, taking more and leaving the man with a lot less to survive. It is also calculated on what the man makes instead of the true needs of the child. The higher-than-should-be child support weekly withdrawal amount eventually takes it’s mental toll on the man. As the cost of living increases while his paycheck increases at a lesser amount.
Audit the Mother’s spend. I know many mother’s who spend the child support on themselves and not on their children per se. The children eventually pick up on this and as they get older they resent their mother. Many kids harbor anger issues b/c the Mother is spending the money on getting their nails/hair done while the child does not get the toy they wanted and their Dad is depressed and struggling.
The Family Courts in NJ require a session with a mediator and the mediator only asks specific court appointed questions that do not apply to the Husband/Wife’s current situation. Both Spouses are required to attend and pay for it. I have not heard of one situation where it worked. Both the Husband and Wife leave there pissed off.
To get in touch with your probation officer you have to call and leave a message with a person who will take your information and have your probation officer call you back. Most of the time it takes weeks or they never call you back. Also, I have never seen so many probation officers who get covid they are out for 3 weeks and then they definitely do not call you back. You go back to the bottom of the list.
The probation officers treat people like they are peasants. They are cold and rude. Given the already stressful situation, we need people who are professional and supportive who are not reading from a script. They need learn how to treat another human.
The child support paperwork is too cumbersome. We do not need to have the paperwork to be filled out in such a way if a certain box is not checked the man has to go back home and fill out the paperwork all over again. All court systems are guilty of this and it is shameful.
I believe we can implement a grading system on the probation officers. Not a survey, but a grading system where the State needs to address when a probation officer goes below a threshold, they hold the probation officer accountable which includes pay cuts, suspension and their ultimately their job.
Regarding the child support money itself, Does there need to be weekly payment withdrawals? I believe the All Caps name in which the Family Court is built on has already received payments from the bonds that were traded fraudulently against our lives and work ethic? This is a framework where WE THE PEOPLE need to be both educated and compensated on.
The ultimate prevention to family court is proper education of the Black Law and what marrying really represents. You are taking on your current Resident State (NJ, NY, PA… ) as a partner and when you decided to end your marriage they are the party who really makes out. I think people should be educated on other ways of creating a union/marriage. One of them being, swear on a Bible or a book of your choice, create an affidavit with witnesses, record it with your local county or at the state level. I believe this is a major step in developing a child so both Parents are fully educated and agree on how to co-parent whether married or not.
No parent should have to answer to a Court under pressure on a weekly basis.