We really need to have a massive overhaul of the Family Law System. Men AND Women alike have become all too comfortable abusing the courts and using children as pawn pieces in the court room. I cast a little bias on this topic, but the child support system currently in place is severely discriminatory against fathers as well as the all too swiftness and complacency to remove fathers from their children’s lives with a swift stroke of a pen. I also believe in cases of an Ex Parte filing against someone that there HAS TO BE CONCRETE EVIDENCE against that person before a ruling can be made! Men and Women both have had false allegations made against them and even when proven untrue, they’re still vilified by these Judges and State systems!
This is more a state issue I know, but I believe there should be some sort of legislation in place that sets the baseline for non-discriminatory and bias practices within the courts that are blatantly exercised by Judges and can’t be called out upon by the Plaintiffs and Defendants or their counsel.
I agree about parents using family law unjustly. This is also happening to women just as much. I personally believe that the claim “Childs best interest” is unfortunately not being taken into consideration or investigated correctly. Money paying for high end attorneys can drag cases out for innocent parents and children when it could easily come to a conclusion. Cases being able to be blown out of proportion and not shut down quicker when it is very clear what is going on is not about the child/children’s best interest. Many times it is about a personal vendetta against the other parent, a parent trying to avoid paying child support, or a parent trying to keep full control and possibly torture the other parent. I am sure that there any many other unjust and simply wrong reasons court cases are dragged out. There is already a mental health pandemic and these high conflict custody cases are negatively impacting the American children. This is a lot of our children when you look at Americas divorce rate. I believe that in the name of the Childs best interest SOMETHING in the process needs to change instead of who has the most money and how much can be made off of cases being the forefront. Too many parents with money are able to do unjust things in the name of family law. High conflict custody cases are no doubt traumatizing families but most importantly innocent children.
There’s really too much to unpack here but as a rough outline:
1). Neither spouse gets a windfall profit, especially if they are the party suing for divorce.
2). Whatever you came into the marriage with, you leave with.
3). The children should be raised by both parents 50/50 unless circumstances would dictate otherwise.
4). Child support therefore should be just a stipend in the event one parent can’t afford the basics when they have the child, food/clothing, etc. This idea that one of the parents should pay an exorbitant amount every month because they make a bigger paycheck is ridiculous. The parent receiving that money is just spending it on themselves, kids don’t need thousands each month to live.
5). Splitting marital assets should be based on each parents contribution to the asset. In the event it’s a parent that gave up working in order to raise the children then it’s assumed 50/50. However in the event both parents have a career they work at, it’s based on the ratio of income each earned.
It’s high time this idea that a spouse can divorce and take half of assets they personally didn’t earn along with a ridiculous amount of child support that they spend to boost their lifestyle is one of the reasons that divorce rates are so high. Either get rid of no fault divorce or penalize the spouse suing for divorce. This is getting absurd.
More suffering if this current system plays on. Personally have seen people just lose their common sense.
!? Marriage - maybe we need to look at that outside of the LEGAL Vice Grip.
Bohemian stereotypes abound, but there have to be other options.
The government intervention in our lives, in even our personal, intimate moments, it’s beyond ridiculous !
What can we do as a society to be “in marriages” but not be BEHOLDEN protected/abused by legal systems? Catch 22.
Paradigms Shifting.
Something had to shift.
It’s become Another way prison planet controls human development.
Currently going through all of this. If I could afford a good attorney it would take all of 5 minutes for them to look over the evidence of how disgusting my ex is and how he gives zero craps about the well being of our children. It’s all about control. Unfortunately I can’t afford an attorney