Military members are held to certain standards of health to stay in the military.
The spouses and children should be held to similar health standards as well.
I say this with family and friends being in the military and having lived in heavy military areas.
Some I have seen over the years could stand to lose some weight. Kids a bit more leniency as they’re growing, but there are limits to this.
The salaries and such of military are paid for by we the people. We shouldn’t have a fit military person with a morbidly obese spouse and children.