I appreciate your willingness to engage in a point-by-point discussion, and I’m truly sorry to hear about the personal impact this issue has had on you. When someone we care about is pulled into the justice system, especially under circumstances that feel unjust or manipulative, it’s natural to want to scrutinize every part of it. That said, it’s important to distinguish our personal experiences and emotions from legal standards and broader societal interests—because once we drift too far from that, we risk doing injustice in the name of justice.
Let me address a few of your core concerns with that in mind.
1. Entrapment and Predisposition
You’re absolutely right that context matters—but the legal definition of entrapment still stands. You say that these men were lured by what appeared to be adults, and only later informed that the “girl” was underage. That’s not entrapment if they persisted after that disclosure. You argue that they showed up to “resolve confusion,” not commit a crime. But this line of thinking turns criminal law on its head.
Intent is judged by conduct, and showing up to a sexual rendezvous after being told the person is underage—even if you doubt it—is reckless disregard. That’s not my interpretation. That’s the legal standard under 18 USC 1591 and multiple state analogues. The law doesn’t require that you fully believe the person is underage. It requires that you proceed despite knowing the risk. That’s what “reckless disregard” is.
And no, this isn’t unique to sex crimes. In many areas of criminal law (drug stings, financial fraud, terrorism plots), courts allow for sting operations that present an opportunity for crime, even one cloaked in deception. What the law prohibits is manufacturing a crime someone wouldn’t otherwise commit—not presenting an opportunity and seeing who bites.
Your frustration about adult photos being used is understandable, but the courts have already ruled on this. In U.S. v. Tykarsky and similar cases, adult-looking decoys (or even text-only communication) have been upheld as valid. Why? Because it’s not about the picture—it’s about what the target was told, and whether they moved forward after being told.
2. The Reality of “Intent”
You place great weight on whether the man “really believed” it was a minor or just wanted to verify in person. But here’s the problem: the law doesn’t reward willful ignorance.
You admit some of these men may have “recklessly disregarded” the possibility the person was underage—then say “that’s not intent.” But that is intent under federal law. And case after case has confirmed that even ambiguous or suspect stings don’t erase culpability if the individual had reason to believe and proceeded anyway.
You’re also conflating uncertainty with reasonable doubt. But the legal standard isn’t “beyond all doubt.” It’s whether the evidence supports intent beyond a reasonable doubt—including actions like making plans, confirming sexual interest, showing up, bringing protection, etc. The burden isn’t perfection—it’s reasonableness.
3. On Adult Platforms & “Creating Crime”
You mention that these stings start on adult platforms—implying they are “manufacturing” predators where none existed. But that assumes men don’t frequent adult platforms looking for barely legal or underage fantasies. Unfortunately, many do.
Law enforcement knows this from seized devices, chat transcripts, and self-incriminating statements. The fact that the ad begins with adult bait but quickly pivots to underage disclosure is precisely the test. Who turns away, and who leans in?
If someone thinks, “Eh, she says she’s 14 but she looks 20,” and proceeds—that’s not confusion. That’s calculated risk-taking. And yes, that is criminally prosecutable behavior.
4. Your Concerns About Overreach Are Valid—But Misplaced
Let’s be honest—there are valid criticisms of law enforcement tactics in some of these stings: ambiguous profiles, unclear communication, or tactics that skate close to the ethical line. But conflating that with unconstitutionality or “electronic warfare” stretches credibility.
You cite People v. Aguirre, which indeed critiques fantasy-based sting methods. But that case involved extraordinarily elaborate and unrealistic scenarios, not run-of-the-mill decoy stings. It’s an outlier, not a standard-bearer.
As for your argument that agents should focus on “real predators” on youth platforms like Instagram or Snapchat—absolutely. Many agree. But resources are limited, and adult platforms are not exempt from abuse. The presence of real minors on these platforms is not a prerequisite for valid enforcement. The attempt is what makes it criminal.
Also, the idea that 99% of Cybertips aren’t followed up on isn’t a smoking gun—it’s a symptom of underfunded systems, not a reason to abandon proactive policing in adult contexts.
5. On “No One Is Dragged In” vs. Manipulation
You say this isn’t about forcing men to commit crimes, but “enticing” them. But that’s exactly the legal standard—and courts have been extremely clear: so long as the defendant was predisposed and the agent didn’t coerce, the sting is lawful.
You’re also right that agents may flirt, talk sexy, or play along to keep the guy engaged. That’s not unethical. That’s what undercover work is. Undercover officers pretend to be buyers in drug cases, terrorists in bomb plots, and corrupt officials in bribery stings. Sex crimes are no exception.
Final Thought
Your passion for your friend’s case is evident, and I don’t fault you for advocating on his behalf. But it’s dangerous to let personal pain cloud the facts. These stings aren’t perfect—but they aren’t fabrications, either. The law exists to protect vulnerable populations, and the moment someone is told “I’m 14” and still walks toward the hotel room, the law has to step in. Not because of what might have happened—but because of what could have.
If you believe the legal bar is too low, then fight to raise it through advocacy and legislation. But don’t pretend the law—as it stands—is being grossly misapplied. Most of the time, it’s not.